Those 2 unavoidable things

A month ago, Mom is doing great and going for walks in the sun. I’m juggling things pretty well: her stuff, caregivers, condo, writing, friends. We watch Dancing with the Stars on Monday nights and Doc Martin on Fridays. All is well. Then it isn’t. A bad cough. No appetite. No strength. Doctors agree she…

No. Yes.

My friend Julie Guy is brilliant. “You will ask organizations for things and they’ll say no,” Julie said on March 23 in accepting her nomination to the YWCA’s NW Women’s Hall of Fame 2013 for her community building and activism. “But no is just the beginning of yes,” she promised. I said no on Monday.…

Trips

When I wake up this morning and go check on Mom, her bedroom light is on. After using the commode, she’s gotten back into bed to think about things. “What’s up?” I ask. We’re all vigilant about her breathing these days to be sure she’s not getting fluid around her lung again. “I was going…

Home

Caregiving, like writing, requires constant leaps of faith. Can I leave Mom alone all weekend and enjoy a writing retreat with real people in a wonderful, wooded place? My preparation takes weeks. I must be forgetting something. I’m busy until the hour I need to leave.  With Mom in good hands that aren’t mine, I…